The Shape of Change

I think we may be better off if we could stop being so convinced that the way we believe things have “always been” is the way things actually are or should be. Discovery itself isn’t change. Just because we didn’t understand something in the past, that doesn’t make it new. With discovery, our thinking needs to shift with the best possible evidence available. We should be thrilled when we find out we were wrong about something. That generally means we’re coming closer to understanding something. 

Our biological makeup didn’t dramatically evolve overnight. Gender didn’t inexplicably mutate in the past few years. The Earth didn’t suddenly undergo some epic transformation when it went from flat to spherical in the eyes of common knowledge. Our understanding of these things changed. for the duration of our lifetimes, they are as they were and will remain for the most part. We just know more about them now. Do we have a perfect understanding of everything? Absolutely not, but with each passing day, we come closer to that seemingly, if not entirely, unachievable goal. 

Check out my latest creation, Fucking Relax: A Journal For Mental Well-being.

It’s a choose-your-own-adventure, self-guided, self-care journal that gives you a chance to work out your frustrations while receiving a repeated daily affirmation intended to help you shrug off bullshit that doesn’t actually matter to you or is presently out of your control. Write it down, get it all out, and Fucking Relax. Pairs well with (legal) medical and recreational Marijuana products.

“Relax!” is the single most annoying thing to hear when you’re upset. But maybe that’s because we’re saying it wrong. It’s not particularly bad advice, but I thought it needed to be conveyed a little differently. I attempted to do just that with Fucking Relax.

The top of each page asks you to write about whatever is making you hope for the apocalypse today. The bottom of each page is an affirmation to you that your feelings are valid but then also gives you the push we sometimes need to let go of the irritation a little once we have it all out of our systems. I included a dedication to all of you who are intelligent enough to be at least a little bit miserable because that means you are at least a little bit right. At the end, I reprinted an older blog post and podcast episode entitled “Self on the Shelf” about our absolute need for self-care and self-compassion. It’s not overly positive bullshit. I don’t imagine any of you expect anything like that from me at this point, but It’s real, and I hope it really helps. I’ve done some beta testing with friends who have done exercises like this for their mental health before, and the response was overwhelmingly good.

You can preorder it right now at, and it will be available soon on Amazon and some other retailers.

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